WHERE ARE YOU?!

Has it ever happen to you that a friend is always late? Okay i do have friends who are always late and that normally makes me kind of irritated! Serious! But what I am going to do today is not to complain about my friends. I am here to tell you what you can do so that we dun get wrinkles easily from being angry with friends like this. Firstly, to be fair I am late sometimes also but it is a bad habit due to bad influences. So I guess I have to learn not to be late also and am learning. But to benefit both parties in this situation, let's all learn what we can do.

Solution 1: If you have a friend who is chronically late, and you know that they always have this pattern of being late for an hour or more, there's two things we can do. You can either choose to inform this friend to meet at one hour before the actual time you guys will meet, in that case, if he is late for an hour, he will be on time (e.g. let's meet at 8 but you will actually meet at 8:45 or 9) OR just get out of the house late also, cause if so, you wouldn't have to be that person stomping your feet over a friend who is late and made you wait for an hour or so.

And I came across this link and I think it made sense of what the person was talking about. If you are later than your friend who is also late, then you can always tell your friend this: "You are also late, and if I were to reach at that time, I would have waited for you ALONE for the period you are late!" Make sense right?

But don't misinterpret what I am trying to tell you, that only applies to friends who are like late for 45 minutes and above because this kind of long waiting time are ridiculous. But if your friends are like 15 minutes late or so don't say that to them cause it doesn't make sense already! And most probably the reason for being late would have been understandable unlike those who are late for like 45 minutes and above?!

This person also mentioned about the mindset of these people who are late. It was said that these people are  angry and feel insulted by our tardiness when we are late. But they never realised that this is what we been through while waiting for them?! Do you feel that this sounds so familiar? Because it always happen! Those who makes me wait never wants to wait for me so that makes me more irritated sometimes.

They never know that they are actually angry at what they have done, angry on their own reflection! 

Solution 2 :  If solution 1 doesn't work this is another method I saw online that you can do. If you reach there on time, set a timer of 15 minutes on your phone and find a place to sit and relax but make sure you switch off your phone.

Then after 15 minutes, your friend still hasn't arrive, grace period for them is over. You switch on your mobile and leave the place. Then prepare to receive the call from your friend saying they have reached and couldn't find you and saying that you are LATE! Take a deep breath and tell them calmly what you did. Tell them you were there and have left because after 15 mins you thought they were not coming. And when they give the excuse that they tried to call or sms you, tell them you have switched off your mobile because you were too tired of the old excuses. 

This is a harsher method for those who really are ridiculously late. Because being late means they never show you respect and to continue any relationship be it friendship or anything else, mutual respect is important. So if the person is not willing to wait for you but willing to make you wait, then this person is not showing respect by saying I am more important than you. FOR THIS METHOD I ONLY RECOMMEND IT IF IT IS REALLY TO THE EXTENT OF INTOLERABLE.

Solution 3: For me, if you think that solution 2 is a bit too harsh for your friend then adopt this method then. This is my personal opinion with reference to some advices that I heard from some people. Since, you know that your friend is always late and despite you arriving late, they are still later than you, don't just sit there and wait then. By sitting there and wait, you are to blame and not the person who is late. By sitting there, time passes slower and you get easily irritated that your friend still hasn't arrived. Then what you should do then? Continue with whatever plan you guys have arranged, no one likes to be missed out. So maybe the next time they had learn to be punctual. But even if you are alone waiting, it doesn't mean you can't continue the plan alone. Go ahead and when the person arrive tell him/her you have already done that thing you guys have planned and you would like to move on to another thing that was being planned on the list.

Solution 4: One of which I find the rather useless solution but you still can give it a try cause different ways work on different people! Whenever someone is late, implement a policy for punishment. For example, whoever is late for more than 15 minutes or arrives the latest shall buy the group lunch? And really implement it and not just mention and maybe to save their pocket from burning that big hole they might start to turn up on time.

Last but not least: The most traditional method. And that is sitting down and addressing the problem to your friend. Tell her how you feel and work together and see whether that there is anything that can be done. 

HOPE THIS WILL HELP ALL OF YOU WHO ARE FACING THE SAME THING AS ME. LET'S TRY THE METHODS AND WAIT FOR IMPROVEMENT TO BE SEEN!